tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19705400.post2493340886206085392..comments2023-08-07T08:19:03.097-05:00Comments on ADOPTION AND ITS FOOTSTOOL: MY FEELINGS ON ADOPTIONAmyadopteehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10954658047614318238noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19705400.post-29899016827195358632006-11-17T07:03:00.000-06:002006-11-17T07:03:00.000-06:00It is that very attitude that needs to change. I ...It is that very attitude that needs to change. I am not saying that social workers don't deserve to get paid for services rendered. I am saying that the many people involved in the process do sit in judgement of the birth mother as she is making the decision. There is still a great deal of coercion involved. I have known women who go into a crisis pregnancy center with husband and child in tow to be asked not once but three times because they need financial help. I have read studies where family planning agencies are taught how to shove adoption down women's throats. I have read studies where agencies were taught how to belittle a woman in order to get that baby. Home studies should be done on adoptive parents. Probably more than is already done. This is also supposed to be about the child. It should go back to being just that child focused. It may not be perfect but it needs radical changes. It should not be allowed to continue as it is.Amyadopteehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10954658047614318238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19705400.post-34912073442407213342006-11-16T19:42:00.000-06:002006-11-16T19:42:00.000-06:00so should social workers (who conduct the 18 hour ...so should social workers (who conduct the 18 hour homestudy of adoptive parents--are they child abusers? do they make enough money to support the child? how is the marriage? is the home safe? etc. etc.)work for free. at their current salaries, it's almost working for free. And should the legal documents be prepaired for free? Social workers and agencies are providing a service. The fees adoptive parents pay also goes towards counseling for women (whether or not they decide on an adoption plan) post-adoptive counseling for women and children, and families. The fees also help pay for the medical and living expenses of the potential birthmother. so to say that the birth mother does not get anything is not entirely accurate. Besides, how would it look if the birthmother was paid a fee for the baby?<br /><br />It's not a perfect system, I know. Can you show me one that is? probably not. Should there be change? definitely.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19705400.post-76390625098522300002006-11-16T07:13:00.000-06:002006-11-16T07:13:00.000-06:00I tried to look up this song on delljukebox but th...I tried to look up this song on delljukebox but they don't have it. I was hoping to hear it. <br />What a profound moment for you Amy. It's so hard to be a child and think that you are totally alone with such huge issues to sort through.<br />I hate to hear adoptive parents say "It just isn't talked about, she/he just never brings it up", as though that means they never give being adopted any thought at all. It's naive thinking.Miahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04766362144121275279noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19705400.post-22976343101970804272006-11-14T20:58:00.000-06:002006-11-14T20:58:00.000-06:00Good job, Amy. Well written and well thought out....Good job, Amy. Well written and well thought out. I appreciate hearing the adoptee, the one whose "best interest" we were supposed to be serving. I wish, oh, how I wish, I could put back the clock, go back to 1967, and run screaming from that hospital, with my son in my arms. It is all so very very sad, and so utterly futile. I just hope that some social worker, or the agency got a nice fat check for my son. Job (not) well done, Creeps!<br />SlyoungAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17088288948654864117noreply@blogger.com