tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197054002024-03-13T09:51:55.956-05:00ADOPTION AND ITS FOOTSTOOLThis is a blog about an adoptee and the hurdles that she faces. Life is always interesting.Amyadopteehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10954658047614318238noreply@blogger.comBlogger1178125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19705400.post-30644806121847106332014-07-05T12:52:00.002-05:002014-07-05T12:52:48.209-05:00Mission Trips and My GirlsToday it was difficult. I had to take my oldest daughter to the Houston International Airport very early this morning. I know that she will be fine because she is with members of my life group. She is going to Costa Rica for the first time. She is seventeen and so independent. I am so proud of her as well. I know that she will be fine but I am a mother and such I will worry.<br />
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I love the Extreme Makeover people. They gave me a bridal shower where I received so many wonderful gifts for my new home and my new life with my husband. They have been so supportive of me. I have learned so much from them. <br />
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Oh that is right. You guys haven't met him, let alone hear me talk about him. I got divorced four years ago. It was the best thing. He was already emotionally cheating on me with his new wife. He was abusive and an alcoholic. My life is totally different. I have a brand new home. Yes brand new home. I got my VA disability and that allowed us to purchase our home. We moved in ten days after our nuptuals. We have had our ups and downs as any couple but it has been wonderful. <br />
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I met him while working for Time Warner Cable. I was a cable installer and he was a maintenance tech. Yep I was the token bitch for that office. I laugh because most of the guys treated me like one of the guys. I learned the most about cable from my husband, then coworker. <br />
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Life has been good. I can't complain. I have decided to begin my search again. I have a little bit more information as I had both of my birth parents contacted. It was the same as before with my birth mother. Sadly it was the same for my birth dad. It could be for several reasons. I will be covering that and other escapades.Amyadopteehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10954658047614318238noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19705400.post-52422367280934675382014-07-04T23:00:00.002-05:002014-07-04T23:00:10.739-05:00Improper Adoptee Dearest<a href="http://tinyurl.com/53jkej"><img src="http://tinyurl.com/298w5c" />Yes! I went there because I am beyond sick and tired of this continuous
nightmare. I am now taking action. I asked you several times to
remove references to my family, friends, and me. You refused. I don't
think that you understand the </a><a href="http://cyberpaths.org/?p=58#comments" target="_blank">irreparable harm</a>
that you have committed against my family, friends, and me. I did
nothing to you to warrant this treatment. I begged and pleaded with you
to remove references to my family and friends. I asked you to delete
the posts about Spookie. I tried everything to help you forgive and
move on with your life. You just do not get it.<br />
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I just happened to stumble upon this latest <a href="http://abolishadoption.blogspot.com/2013/06/goto-hell-spookie-and-no-my-blog-is-not.html" target="_blank">diatribe of vitriol</a>.
I am Amy Burt, also known as Amyadoptee. I am not some weak minded
individual who lacks fortitude and strength. I am not someone who is
easily fooled. I no longer participate in adoptee rights because I have
so much more on my plate that warrants my attention. I am a disabled
Desert Storm Veteran who sadly fought for your right to spill your
vitriol all over the internet. I am a survivor of Hidradenitis
Suppurativa. I am a survivor of Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. I am the
kickass mother of two precious blessings that I call my daughters whom I
now have physical custody. I survived the worst judge in the history
of Texas. I survived one of the worst divorces in the history of
Texas. I am not someone who is easily manipulated or controlled.<br />
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Approximately in 2009, <a href="http://insanitiesontheinternets.blogspot.com/2011/05/cyberbullies-like-marilyn-mcaboy-should.html" target="_blank">Spookie</a>
and I talked because I was worried about a mother who was making
contact with her. This woman had made threats against me via the United
States Postal Service. She had mailed letters to both me and <a href="http://insanitiesontheinternets.blogspot.com/2011/05/cyberbullies-like-marilyn-mcaboy-should.html" target="_blank">Spookie</a>.
During my divorce, she began mailing them to my ex-husband. I still
have those letters which were all post dated out of Indianapolis,
Indiana. My ex-husband and <a href="http://insanitiesontheinternets.blogspot.com/2011/05/cyberbullies-like-marilyn-mcaboy-should.html" target="_blank">Spookie</a> gave me those letters. Because of many of the rants on your part, this woman was led to believe things that weren't true. <br />
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Even when <a href="http://insanitiesontheinternets.blogspot.com/2011/05/cyberbullies-like-marilyn-mcaboy-should.html" target="_blank">Spookie</a>
and I were at odds with each other, she did not harass me to the extent
that you are proclaiming. She pretty much left me alone. <a href="http://insanitiesontheinternets.blogspot.com/2011/05/cyberbullies-like-marilyn-mcaboy-should.html" target="_blank">Spookie</a>
never attempted to hack into my email, blog, or any other online
internet product. I know that others did it. I know their names.
Karma has a funny way of coming back and hurting people. Eventually
those that did perpetrate harm against me and my daughters will get
their Karma. I will get justice although I am no longer concerned about
any of that old crap. <br />
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In the mean time, this is my one and only post to <a href="http://abolishadoption.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">Improper Adoptee</a>.
I ask you now and forever to clean my name from your blog. If you want
to be considered a valuable asset to the adoption community, remove the
content about Spookie and I.
Amyadopteehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10954658047614318238noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19705400.post-65826820959101250892014-07-04T19:52:00.000-05:002014-07-04T19:52:02.395-05:00Open for Business AgainWow, it sure has been a long time. I let my Go Daddy account go. I am back here, dusting things off and seeing what is going on with my old blog. I realize that not too many people remember this blog. I had to stop and take care of life. It caught up with me. So here I am again folks. I have not a clue as to where to go. I think I will paint the place and change some stuff around and see what happens from there.Amyadopteehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10954658047614318238noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19705400.post-25232290322333589742009-01-07T11:07:00.004-06:002009-01-07T11:11:31.013-06:00ADAM HERRMAN WHERE ARE YOU?<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_Mi1iazmeL-E/SWTh2wa63xI/AAAAAAAAAIQ/lCJzKCmONUA/s1600-h/124-herrman_composite_copy.embedded.prod_affiliate.80.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; float: left; cursor: pointer; width: 160px; height: 200px;" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_Mi1iazmeL-E/SWTh2wa63xI/AAAAAAAAAIQ/lCJzKCmONUA/s200/124-herrman_composite_copy.embedded.prod_affiliate.80.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5288600193266802450" border="0" /></a><br />Here is the age enhanced picture of Adam Herrman. There are still even more reports coming out that his adoptive parents abused him. Lets hope that nothing bad has happened but I do know that we might have to be realistic on this.<br /><br />Help his natural family find him.Amyadopteehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10954658047614318238noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19705400.post-46797996668533079452009-01-06T18:11:00.004-06:002009-01-06T18:50:18.638-06:00JUST WTF??????????<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_Mi1iazmeL-E/SWP71ztnKHI/AAAAAAAAAII/6hxtSQcoyfM/s1600-h/image4701560g.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; float: left; cursor: pointer; width: 200px; height: 150px;" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_Mi1iazmeL-E/SWP71ztnKHI/AAAAAAAAAII/6hxtSQcoyfM/s200/image4701560g.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5288347289296250994" border="0" /></a><br /><a href="http://ungratefullittlebastard.blogspot.com/2009/01/adam-herrman-press-conference.html">ULB</a> told me about this<a href="http://news.aol.com/article/hunt-begins-for-boy-missing-10-years/294287"> case</a>. It involves an<a href="http://news.aol.com/article/hunt-begins-for-boy-missing-10-years/294287"> adoptee</a>, Adam Herrman, who has been missing since 1999. Forget the Caylee Anthony story! This case went unreported for ten years. This little boy was adopted by a Kansas couple, Doug and Valerie Herrman, when he was two out of the foster care system. Remember this<a href="http://wjz.com/local/freezer.girls.relative.2.854876.html"> story</a> about the adoptive mother that was beating her daughter? The girl had to escape out of the window in order to stop the beatings. Her sisters were in the family <a href="http://wjz.com/local/freezer.girls.relative.2.854876.html">freezer</a>. This story is probably similar to it but there is no body nor little boy. The boy has been missing for years. Ten years to be exact. The adoptive parents did not report it because they were having too many issues with him and just did not want to deal with it anymore. They were still however claiming him on their taxes and their bankruptcy forms. They were also still collecting federal adoption subsidies in the form of Medicaid. So they just remained mum on his whereabouts. Did they receive money for this child? One really wonders. Of course once the adoption is final there is no going back and checking on the child just like the previously mentioned case with the three girls. I think the Russians have it right in the sense that they are required to do follow ups for several years. This is the kind of program that should be implemented here in the United States with foster to adopt, domestic and international adoptions finalized here.<br /><br />These adoptive parents have stated that he kept running away and that he was homeschooled. They got tired of dealing with it. I wonder if there is proof of that in the way of police reports. One of his adoptive<a href="http://www.kwch.com/Global/story.asp?S=9619669&nav=menu486_2_2"> brothers </a>came forward. He stated that these adoptive parents were abusing him and his brother, Adam. He even called the police but told them when they arrived that he lied. Other relatives have reported him being chained to a bathtub faucet. Nice really nice.<br /><br />Detectives in this case hopes that this gets national attention so that someone anyone can find this young man. Adam is now 21 years of age. The news will be putting an age enhanced photo soon. <a href="http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2009/01/06/national/main4701584.shtml">Some</a> of the main stream media has finally began reporting on it.<br /><br />If you have seen a young man who looks similar, please report it as quickly as possible. I may rag on the parents who put their Russian adoptees in that Montana ranch but at least they are being cared for by someone. Someone knows where they are at. It is unexcuseable for adoptive parents to not report that their son is missing. So much for adoption being similar to the real thing.Amyadopteehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10954658047614318238noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19705400.post-45112025088863040412009-01-06T17:51:00.004-06:002009-01-06T18:04:17.584-06:00SOME PEOPLE BELONG IN JAILSeriously, people just like the <a href="http://www.sltrib.com/News/ci_11386108">Banks</a> belong in jail. It doesn't seem like they have to do any kind of restitution. They have to a press conference as to why it is bad to scam people in adoption. Oh Really? Like that is going to stop their corrupt ways. They will just find another way to contribute to adoption.<br /><br />According to this<a href="http://www.sltrib.com/News/ci_11386108"> news article</a>, this is what they have to do:<br /><br />"During a hearing before U.S. District Judge David Sam on Tuesday morning, the four -- Karen Banks; her husband, Scott Banks; Coleen Bartlett; and Karalee Thornock -- all admitted to aiding and abetting the improper entry of an alien and agreed to cease participation in any domestic or international adoption business. <span id="slt_site"><span id="slt_article"> <p> In return, prosecutors have agreed to dismiss dozens of charges and seek five-year probation terms when the defendants are sentenced Feb. 25. The aiding and abetting charge carries a maximum sentence of six months in prison and a $5,000 fine. </p> <p> All four are required to make monthly contributions during their probationary periods to a trust established for the benefit of Samoan children adopted through their agency. Karen and Scott Banks, who operated Focus on Children (FOC), must also: </p> <p> Participate in a news conference after their sentencing, where they will make "forthright admission" about the conduct that led to the charges against them. The purpose is to educate the public and others who might be engaged in similar conduct, according to the Banks' plea agreements. Their statements at that conference must be approved before hand by the U.S.Attorney.</p></span></span><span id="slt_article"><p>Meet with the U.S. Attorney's Office and the State Department to provide information concerning FOC's adoption practices in Samoa, Guatemala and other countries. The information will be used to see if adjustments need to be made in U.S. laws to ensure children are protected in the future. </p> <p>Relinquish all rights in adoption documents, photographs and other papers related to Samoan adoptions."</p><p>There were a <span style="font-weight: bold;">135 counts</span> against these folks and they get to walk away. I guess it is because we have to protect the adoption agency. <span style="font-weight: bold;">Please Give Me A Break!</span> They wonder why adoptees are so angry. Can you imagine what these adoptees will feel when they find out what the hell happened as this is all in the news and has been recorded on how many different blogs?<br /></p><p><br /></p></span>Amyadopteehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10954658047614318238noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19705400.post-48953798021334496512009-01-06T11:16:00.003-06:002009-01-06T12:03:06.514-06:00REMEMBER THIS STORY?It just got funkier. <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Baby_Jessica_case">Baby Jessica</a> is an adoption case where the father did not relinquish his rights and fought for his daughter. The Supreme Courts in both Iowa and Michigan ruled in his favor. Well the so called adoptive father is in the news again. His apartment complex caught fire in which his apartment was also damaged. I can see that being news. Baby Jessica was renamed Anna.<br /><br />This man has not gotten over the court case obviously. The rest of the<a href="http://www.mlive.com/news/annarbornews/index.ssf?/base/news-30/1231256423275490.xml&coll=2"> article </a>centers around the court case battle. All I can say is that you have got to be kidding me. You never got over losing that battle or the daughter that wasn't meant to be yours in the first place. His wife, Roberta DeBoer went on to form a group called<a href="http://www.hearmyvoice.org/"> Hear My Voice</a> that is pro adoptive parent in difficult adoption cases. This site is under construction for God only knows how long. It is ridculous that a set of adoptive parents are still whining and pining away for a child that was never theirs to begin with. This man still had the picture of Anna in his home.<br /><br />I can understand the fire being news but turning the fire into a way to attempt contact is beyond me.Amyadopteehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10954658047614318238noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19705400.post-82853470565100235002009-01-05T22:31:00.002-06:002009-01-05T23:19:47.634-06:00FUN SITES TO HELP HOMESCHOOLDid I mention that I am a homeschool mom? I am always always on the lookout for cool things for my girls to do. Since my budget is tight, I look for inexpensive ways to find cheap but effective tools to help my daughters with their learning and their educational skills. History and Science are the toughest courses to teach. It is a constant battle to find interesting things that we can use at home.<br /><br />I found something interesting. <a href="http://socialspark.com/metrics/click/post?slot_id=30416&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.brightstorm.com%2Fregister%2Fregister%3Fa%3D10104" rel="nofollow">Brightstorm!</a> It is an educational site that your middle school and high school age children can use to help with writing, SAT scores, and other courses. I am always on the lookout for the cool and exciting because I have a daughter heading into that age group. You can <a href="http://socialspark.com/metrics/click/post?slot_id=30416&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.brightstorm.com%2Fregister%2Fregister%3Fa%3D10104%22%20rel=%22nofollow%22">sign up for a free account</a> as well in which you get one free video to view.<br /><br /><a href="http://socialspark.com/metrics/click/post?slot_id=30416&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.brightstorm.com%2Fregister%2Fregister%3Fa%3D10104" rel="nofollow">Brightstorm</a><br /><br />They actually have videos that are aimed at teaching students to write, study history, prepare for colledge entrance exams, and many other courses. Ooh boy is this a collection that I am going to bookmark and come back to. It is set up as a video classroom from your computer. It is a really neat site. They come with worksheets. You can get a one year course for $49.00. Oh I like this site. I can up with supporting worksheets to help my daughters learn. Even if your child needs tutor help, <a href="http://socialspark.com/metrics/click/post?slot_id=30416&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.brightstorm.com%2Fregister%2Fregister%3Fa%3D10104%22%20rel=%22nofollow%22">Brightstorm! </a>can really help you. If you are homeschooling, this is another way to help you teach your children. Check out <a href="http://socialspark.com/metrics/click/post?slot_id=30416&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.brightstorm.com%2Fregister%2Fregister%3Fa%3D10104%22%20rel=%22nofollow%22">Brightstorm!</a><br /><br /><map name="map1993"><area href="http://socialspark.com/metrics/click/disclosure?slot_id=30416&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.brightstorm.com" shape="rect" coords="0,0,206,45" rel="nofollow"><area href="http://socialspark.com/code_of_ethics" shape="rect" coords="207,0,225,45" rel="nofollow"></map><img alt="Post?slot_id=30416&url=http%3a%2f%2fsocialspark" src="http://socialspark.com/metrics/view/post?slot_id=30416&url=http%3A%2F%2Fsocialspark.com%2Fimages%2Fdisclosure_badges%2Fdisclosure_badge_grey.png" usemap="#map1993" border="0" />Amyadopteehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10954658047614318238noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19705400.post-76002715210847255382009-01-04T13:05:00.002-06:002009-01-04T13:31:00.861-06:00HERE IS THE LETTER TO EDITORS OF INDIANA NEWSPAPERSMy name is Amy K. Burt. I am one of the founders of a grass roots organization of Indiana adoptees, first families and adoptive famillies. We are Indiana Open. Maine just joined the ranks of Alabama, Alaska, Kansas, New Hampshire and Oregon. They have restored the rights of adult adoptees to their original birth certificates. It is time to do the same for Indiana adoptees and their families.<br /><br />According to the Evan B. Donaldson Adotpion Institute, 90% of relinquishing mothers want contact from their children placed through adoption. In states with adoptee access, that percentage is even higher. <br />In Oregon alone, abortion rates have dropped 18%. This is a state that changed their law without any federal law or mandate changes to the abortion laws of this country.. During this time frame, adoption rates have also increased.<br />In New Hampshire, there has been no denial of contact for the last two years. <br /><br />It is time to give adult adoptees equal treatment under the law. It is time to stop making adoptees responsible for the future reproductive choices of women. It is time to give adult adoptees back their right to privacy, their due process rights and their right to free association. The only way to do so is by giving them unrestricted access to their original birth certificates<br /><br />Sincerely,<br />Amy K. Burt<br />http://indianaopen.org.Amyadopteehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10954658047614318238noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19705400.post-66126269818949649512009-01-03T22:28:00.002-06:002009-01-03T23:07:45.321-06:00ILLINOIS, INDIANA AND CONFIDENTIAL INTERMEDIARY SYSTEMSanta's elves delivered the Christmas wishes of adoptees in Illinois. <a href="http://73adoptee.blogspot.com/2009/01/why-registries-and-intermediaries-are.html">Three</a> <a href="http://rightsofadoptees.blogspot.com/2009/01/adult-adoptees-have-right-to-their-obc.html">Illinois</a> <a href="http://bastardgrannyannie.blogspot.com/2008/11/still-crazy-after-all-these-years.html">bloggers</a> have been talking about it for a while. Illinois has had the same CI system that Indiana has but it is more complex than Indiana. Currently Illinois legislators will be considering legislation that basically allows the previous CI contacts and denials to stand. Those natural parents still have control over the original birth certificate. They do not have to state any kind of preference because the CIs do it for them. That leads to corruption. The natural parents should tell the adoptee that they do not want contact. It should not come from a governmental entity.<br /><br />I too have had horrors in the CI system. I know that at the end of my search, there will be a death. I hope that my father is still alive because he wanted me. My agency does not contact natural fathers. So I was not allowed to contact my father through them. I am tired of agencies controlling adoptees and their families.<br /><br />Another<a href="http://www.babylovechild.org/2009/01/01/maine-restores-rights-records-access-but-once-again-adds-an-odious-contact-preference-form/"> blog</a> brought up the point of free association. I got to thinking about this. Many of these right to association lawsuits are about labor and right to exclude individuals from specialized groups. The author brings up good points but the key thing here is that these groups or individuals who chose to exclude do it to the individual's face either by letter, by email or by phone. They do not get to have the protection of a government entity such as that of CI system in both Indiana and Illinois. There is no other group of people that have that kind of specialized governmental protection. Many of these women do not want that kind of protection. They do not want the government, any group or especially any adoption agency affiliated group speaking for them. They do not want the government collecting medical information on them. It is a violation of their HIPPA rights. So when does it become okay to violate the HIPPA laws in this country? My medical information does not belong to my children. However, I do educate my children on possible health issues. It is my job as a mother. <br /><br />These laws also act as a restraining order against adoptees and natural parents. We do not have the luxury of having due process rights. We are found guilty because of the status of our birth. Even though there is a few mothers who did not voluntarily relinquish their rights, other women did do sign away their rights. They by no means relinquished the rights of adoptees. <br /><br />What this all amounts to is the control of the adoption industry over its participants. They want to retain that control. The shroud of secrecy which was wanted by adoptive parents is now hurting them as well. We are still in this position because of the fears of the past. Adoptees should not be held accountable for the reproductive decisions of women in the future. The reproduction portion of our lives are over and done with. Our mothers for the most part are not able to reproduce any longer. I personally do not want special privileges but I do want equal rights as the non adopted.Amyadopteehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10954658047614318238noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19705400.post-52435814878529638652009-01-03T09:06:00.002-06:002009-01-03T09:29:57.139-06:00ILLINOIS ADOPTEES IN THE NEWSI thought about this. I really did. Something that blows my mind is that the legislators actually listen to this privacy issue. How can someone get new rights? How can parents control a document that belongs to their child especially when that child become an adult? How are adoptees held accountable for a contract signed by other parties which the adoptee had no choice in? I just don't get it. We are also held responsible for the sexual reproductive choice of every woman after the fact of our birth. <br /><br />You can read the interesting details <a href="http://rightsofadoptees.blogspot.com/2008/12/how-i-would-have-loved-to-have-shoved.html">here</a><br /><br />Here is the <a href="http://www.sj-r.com/homepage/x1277306135/Adoptees-lobby-for-access-to-birth-records">link</a> and the story:<br /><br /><br />Adoptees lobby for access to birth records<br />By DAVE BAKKE<br />THE STATE JOURNAL-REGISTER<br />Posted Jan 02, 2009 @ 11:58 PM<br /><br />Adoptees in Illinois are lobbying to change state law that prohibits access to their birth certificates.<br /><br />Mary Lynn Fuller of Urbana recently delivered more than 80 letters to the Illinois Office of Vital Records, 605 W. Jefferson St., from adoptees and their families asking the state to grant full access to their birth records.<br /><br />“Our main goal,” says Fuller, “was to raise public awareness. I knew I wouldn’t be walking away with the original birth certificates. But lots of people have no idea those records are sealed.”<br /><br />The state’s concern has been that providing full access to the birth certificates to adoptees will invade the privacy of parents who put their children up for adoption.<br /><br />Current law limits birth-certificate access to Illinois adoptees who already have the consent of their birth relatives. Otherwise, the adoptee must go to court to try and obtain access. Providing access to the birth certificates any other way is a misdemeanor.<br /><br />State Rep. Sara Feigenholtz, D-Chicago, chairwoman of the House Human Services Appropriations Committee, has sponsored bills to widen access to birth certificates for certain adoptees. Feigenholtz was adopted as a child.<br /><br />But Fuller said adoption-advocacy groups she is affiliated with opposed the most recent bill, introduced last year, because it did not treat all adoptees equally. Adoptees had to be 21 or older to gain unfettered access. Fuller believes there should be no conditions put on access to the birth certificates for any adoptee.<br /><br />The state has an adoption registry and confidential intermediary program to help adoptees searching for their birth parents. The registry provides identifying information to mutually consenting members of birth and adoptive families.<br /><br />In the intermediary program, a court-appointed delegate is granted access to confidential adoption information. The intermediary then contacts the birth parent to determine whether they are open to hearing from their child.<br /><br />“But if they catch the mother off-guard,” said Fuller, “they may say they don’t want contact. That closes the door. If the adoptee does it, and they say they don’t want contact, they can leave their phone number. Once the mother adjusts, sometimes they hear from them later.”<br /><br />For more than 30 years, Fuller has been working for greater access to records for adoptees. She was adopted as a child and eventually embarked on a search for her birth parents that took some 20 years to finish.<br /><br />In 1997, she learned that both of her birth parents had died. However, she said, her search was not in vain because she has reunited with her siblings and other birth relatives.<br /><br />Dave Bakke can be reached at 788-1541.Amyadopteehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10954658047614318238noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19705400.post-35180108434682239942009-01-03T00:41:00.002-06:002009-01-03T00:52:35.626-06:00THIS IS A CLUE INTO THE THINKING OF A WOMANAfter reading this<a href="http://bastardette.blogspot.com/2009/01/family-unfriendly-nebraska-no-shame-but.html"> article</a> by the Bastardette, I really wonder if legislators think that a woman can make up her mind on issues concerning her body and her life. Women are intelligent human beings. Hillary Clinton and Sarah Palin both ran for high offices in our country. Obviously people thought that these women were qualified to make decisions for our country. Kay Bailey Hutchinson is another example. I hope she runs against Rick Perry and wins the Governor's position. I really wish someone somewhere would do a study on why women have abortions. So maybe we can finally clear all of this nonsense up once and for all. Two of my heros, Ann Richards and Molly Ivans, were very intelligent and delightfully snarky women. <br /><br />Both of my children were accidental pregnancies. Were they unwanted? Hell no. Would I have ever in my life ever consider relinquishing any child? No. I have also never had an abortion either. <br /><br />This article is a<a href="http://www.jamaica-gleaner.com/gleaner/20090103/lead/lead6.html"> clue</a> into how women basically view adoption vs. abortion. <br /><br /><h3>Abortion, not adoption - Two women tell how they would prefer termination to giving up the child</h3> <p class="publishtime">Published: Saturday | January 3, 2009</p> <!-- Begin of Kontera div //--> <br /> <div class="KonaBody"> <b>Athaliah Reynolds, Staff Reporter</b><p>At least two women who have had abortions say they would rather terminate a pregnancy than give the child up for adoption.</p><p>The women were responding to a call recently made by several members of the church community and other anti-abortion advocates for expectant mothers contemplating abortion to take the babies to them instead.</p><p>Father Gregory Ramkissoon, executive director of Mustard Seed, threw out the lifeline during a press conference recently, saying his organisation and other churches would be willing to care for children whose mothers believed they could not keep them.</p><p>However, the two young professionals who spoke with <b>The Gleaner</b> said they would feel guiltier if they were to carry the baby to term and then give it up for adoption, than they would if they terminated the pregnancy.</p><p>"I would feel like I neglected my child," said 22-year-old Cecile Lyn.</p><p>Lyn explained that the idea of carrying a child to full term and then turning it over to an adoption agency or the church would be more traumatic than having an abortion.</p><p>"I don't really see the sense in that," she said. "Why bond with a child for nine months and then give it away?"</p><p>She said her decision to have an abortion three years ago was based on the fact that she had just started university and had no money or support.</p><p>Lyn explained that after she told the father of the child that she was pregnant, he broke off the relationship, leaving her to deal with the situation on her own.</p><p>"I don't regret having an abortion. It was the best thing for me to do at that time because I wasn't ready to be a mother," she said.</p><p>Twenty-six-year-old Karice Sinclairshared Lyn's sentiments. "I couldn't sleep at night knowing that my child was alive in one of those homes and is probably suffering and just leave it like that," she said. Sinclair said she believed that this was a worse fate than abortion.</p><p>Sinclair admitted that her decision to have an abortion at 21 years old was a matter of convenience. "I was just starting out, just finished school and I made the silly mistake of getting pregnant," she told <b>The Gleane</b>r.</p><p>Reverend Donovan Cole, a member of the Coalition for the Defense of Life, said it was unfortunate that some persons saw it necessary to put convenience over life. "It shows a real deterioration in values," he said.</p><p>Cole said the Church would be willing to care for the child until the mother was in a position to do so herself.</p><p>Debate on abortion intensified in September 2008, when a joint select committee of Parliament began hearing submissions from the public on the controversial issue.</p><p>The committee has been set up to consider the recommendations of the Abortion Policy Review Group.</p><p><b>Names changed on request.</b></p><p><i>athaliah.reynolds@gleanerjm.com</i></p></div>Amyadopteehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10954658047614318238noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19705400.post-91878349287248471512009-01-02T19:31:00.002-06:002009-01-03T00:09:42.831-06:00CAN YOU SWALLOW THIS?I found this<a href="http://www.adoptioncouncil.org/letter4.htm"> last</a> night researching something. I sat here just appalled reading this <a href="http://www.adoptioncouncil.org/letter4.htm">letter</a>. As I looked around further, there were more. If you have a puke bucket, draw it close. The logic of these letters blows the mind. They do not make sense.<br /><br />This is wrong on so many levels. These letters are making it seem like they are out to protect these mothers. They want adoption to continue in its happy yappy dance. They do not want folks real live folks to realize that what they are spewing is lies, smoke and mirrors.<br /><br /><p class="style93">Subject: Callous Disregard from Jane Doe #7</p> <p style="font-style: italic; color: rgb(102, 0, 0); font-weight: bold;" class="style93">This is a letter from Jane Doe #7, anonymous birth mother plaintiff in the lawsuit against Oregon's Measure 58. It was filed along with her affidavit in the Plaintiff's Motion for Summary Judgment filed in May 1999. </p> <p style="font-style: italic; color: rgb(102, 0, 0); font-weight: bold;" class="style93">Callous Disregard</p> <p style="font-style: italic; color: rgb(102, 0, 0); font-weight: bold;" class="style93">I recall the very instant I made the decision that I would give the child I was carrying up for adoption. I remember this crystal clearly as if it were yesterday-despite the fact that it occurred some thirty odd years ago. I was young, unmarried and after weeks of turmoil and distress, it came suddenly down to something very simple and fundamental-what was best for the child? Discounting my preferences, wishes, desires, did I have all the necessary resources to give this child what he or she needed to have the best possible start in this world? If no, then how about a fair start? The fact of the matter was that the answer to both of these questions was, 'No." </p> <p style="font-style: italic; color: rgb(102, 0, 0); font-weight: bold;" class="style93">My story isn't unique. There were thousands of us then as there are now- engaging in sexual activities and making serious mistakes by, depending on how you look at it, either first being sexually active at all without the benefit of marriage, or at least by not using reliable methods of contraception. We were young, sometimes irresponsible and considered pretty much 'bad" by society in general back then. Boys/men weren't held to the same level of responsibility-they were just responding to their hormones. But it was different for girls/women-it was our job to remain "pristine;" keeping both genders' hormones in check. If we didn't well then, we just kind of deserved what we got. </p> <p style="font-style: italic; color: rgb(102, 0, 0); font-weight: bold;" class="style93">When a pregnancy occurred, some women got married and lived happily ever after, maybe. Some got married too early to the wrong men, only later to find themselves left with at least one child and no real way to support themselves or the child. Some didn't get married, keeping the child, and dooming themselves and not only this child but all their children to a life of poverty. That's been statistically proven time and time again. </p> <p style="font-style: italic; color: rgb(102, 0, 0); font-weight: bold;" class="style93">Some young women responded by getting illegal abortions. Some worked the angle getting a legal abortion by "convincing" a psychiatrist their emotional well-being was seriously compromised by the pregnancy. If one had the necessary funds and sought an evaluation by a sympathetic mental health professional, one could easily access a gynecologist who would perform the necessary procedure "to maintain psychological health." </p> <p style="font-style: italic; color: rgb(102, 0, 0); font-weight: bold;" class="style93">Some chose to give their child up for adoption. It wasn't an easy choice. It's hard to carry a child for nine months, give birth, hear the first few cries, then silence as the child is whisked off the arms of the waiting adoptive parents there are no words to describe just how hard that was.</p> <p style="font-style: italic; color: rgb(102, 0, 0); font-weight: bold;" class="style93">But, I'm getting ahead of myself here... Once the decision was made, based on the welfare of the child as the paramount factor, I researched who might be able to help me with this very difficult choice. I found an obstetrician who said he could arrange a private adoption where the suitability of the potential parents would be assured. He could refer me to an attorney, who would ensure the process was "legal." Expenses would be paid by the adopting family. I saw the referral attorney to discuss the possibility. He assured me that the state would carefully evaluate any adopting family. He advised me of the adoption process - the birth certificate of the child would be sealed and a new birth record would be issued to the child and the adopting family. The original record of the birth parents would be sealed and could never be opened. In fact, I should ensure that my decision was carefully made because it would be final, once I signed the papers giving my child up for adoption I would not be able to find the child and would never be able to reclaim the child as my own. The rights of the adopting family were ironclad. This was to ensure the welfare of the child, the deal was final. </p> <p style="font-style: italic; color: rgb(102, 0, 0); font-weight: bold;" class="style93">The ensuing months were very difficult. I was miserable dealing with the ambiguities of the decision I was making. I kept reminding myself that the most important issue was the welfare of the child-not my own. Finally the time came and in total despair, I signed those papers-I couldn't see what I was doing because of the tears. The attorney told me to forget this pregnancy ... this child. With the documents he had created, I would never see this child again. I shouldn't even try. He told me to forget 'what happened" and go out and make another life for myself. He just didn't tell me. . . how..</p> <p style="font-style: italic; color: rgb(102, 0, 0); font-weight: bold;" class="style93">One doesn't create a new life for themselves after giving a child up for adoption without leaving a few critical things about their past out when they develop new relationships. Life goes on. One never, ever..forgets. But one doesn't disclose or discuss it. </p> <p style="font-style: italic; color: rgb(102, 0, 0); font-weight: bold;" class="style93">Although there isn't anything I wouldn't do change the circumstances of the birth of my first child, reflecting back, I really think I did the right things after I became pregnant, I took responsibility for my actions. I put the welfare the child before that of anyone else-including myself. I didn't share my personal circumstance with anyone other than the one individual with a right to know - the father. I didn't default on my education loans and become a welfare mom relying on society for financial support. I abided by the legal options that were open to me. I signed the adoption papers knowing full well that I could never attempt to impinge on the rights of the adopting parents nor interfere with the private life of the child. I was told the records would be sealed and no one would be able to gain access to the birth record - not even me. I began living my life relying what had been told from the attorney and physician based on Oregon law. </p> <p style="font-style: italic; color: rgb(102, 0, 0); font-weight: bold;" class="style93">I'm living a life that includes family, friends and professional associates where this child exists only in my heart. I've pondered utilizing existing processes to put my name out there so this child could contact me if he/she wanted, Before it would be fair to anyone involved, should this child even be interested in a meeting, there would be a lot of preparation for the child, their family and my family that would be required before the chances of a positive result could materialize. Any meeting would need to be carefully orchestrated. I would never consider trying to find this child and meet with anyone in their family without his/her consent. </p> <p style="font-style: italic; color: rgb(102, 0, 0); font-weight: bold;" class="style93">Now, the voting public has determined that the record of this child as well as all other adoptees should be open and accessible by simply a unilateral request of the adoptee. The majority of Oregonians feel that adoptees have the right to default retroactively on rules that applied when their birth parents made the decisions to give them up for adoption. I'm not so sure why they feel this is such a good idea. Is it because they had no opportunity to hear from birth parents as to how this actually might affect lives of the involved parties? How could we, as birth parents, possibly unite and/or speak out telling anyone of our concerns? Our life has been one of secrecy-to openly discuss, educate or petition against the passage of this bill would have been to publicly acknowledge that which we have kept private-that which I was told to forget because I would never be able to change. And why, at this time, is it appropriate to open these birth records without even consulting the birth parents? What have I done so that I should not even be given the opportunity to have a say about whether information about me is going to be released, particularly in light of the fact I was told the information would never be releasable even to me? Now, the child may have access, but I may not? How is it possible that the "majority of Oregonians," who have never been in my shoes, can change the terms of an agreement I entered into over thirty years ago? Was that agreement only for the benefit of the adopting family? Was anyone in this legal agreement representing me or my interests? Is my life as a birth parent, so inconsequential in comparison to that of the adoptee that I should have absolutely no say nor any notification when or how this information may be released? </p> <p style="font-style: italic; color: rgb(102, 0, 0); font-weight: bold;" class="style93">Does the Oregon public and furthermore, do adoptees think that walking into the unprepared and/or unwilling family of birth parents is going to automatically result in acceptance and happiness? Specifically, how is acceptance and happiness to result when the birth parent will not know if, how, nor when this might happen? No provision for preparation of the birth parent or family has been included or ensured. What is going to happen to the adoptee psychologically when they are not necessarily met with open arms? How about when they're met with shock, denial, hostility or rejection? What about birth mothers who live in situations of domestic violence? What's going to happen if a partner, prone to verbally or physically abusive conduct, finds out "his woman" committed sins of the flesh and gave birth and adopted out a child regardless of how long ago or under what conditions it might have happened? </p> <p style="font-style: italic; color: rgb(102, 0, 0); font-weight: bold;" class="style93">A proposed reasoning for the access of the birth parent is for medical reasons. There may be a legitimate need for the a person to contact a birth parent; however this would not require the release of all birth records by a unilateral request of all the adopted children in the State of Oregon. Other mechanisms could be instituted to provide for first accessing the birth parent, informing them of the need and requesting their cooperation. </p> <p style="font-style: italic; color: rgb(102, 0, 0); font-weight: bold;" class="style93">There is no doubt that adoptees and birth parents often decide to meet after the adoptee becomes an adult and develop enriched relationships that are positive and constructive. These relationships begin with a foundation of mutual willingness and are fostered by dialogue that is entered into by two or more parties who want to proceed. Reuniting under these circumstances makes sense. Opportunities for these mutually agreeable meetings should be encouraged. </p> <p style="font-style: italic; color: rgb(102, 0, 0); font-weight: bold;" class="style93">However, to proceed with a change in Oregon law allowing adoptees free access to previously sealed birth records so that they may contact unprepared and/or unwilling birth parents is just plain wrong. It won't help adoptees access the information regarding their birth which they may be seeking. It will do nothing to foster a positive relationship with birth parents or extended families-in fact, it will do just the opposite. It is in direct conflict to agreements made between the birth parents, adopting parents and the State of Oregon over the last forty years creating unfairness to the birth parents with the potential for devastating effects on all party's lives. </p> <p style="font-style: italic; color: rgb(102, 0, 0); font-weight: bold;" class="style93">I was told my decision was final-I could under no circumstances change it. I was promised the records were going to remain sealed from everyone, including me. I lived by the rules of the agreement I made never attempting to open the birth records nor interfere with the adoptive parents or the child. I was told to forget what happened and build a new life. I took responsibility for my personal actions, I put the welfare of the innocent child before my own. I became a productive tax-paying member of society not relying on the public to raise my child. Why now, should the circumstances of the agreement I made over thirty year ago change? Why should this record be released in any manner without my consent?</p><span style="font-style: italic;"><span style="font-weight: bold;"></span></span> <h3 style="font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size:100%;"><span style="font-family: verdana;">This author acts like she is the possessor of the original birth certificate. Does she really think that document belongs only to her? </span>Parents are not the owners of the original birth certificate. It belongs to the person whose birth it records. In every state, the law states that the non adopted get immediate access to that birth certificate. Yes it belongs also in a way to a parent but only if the child is a minor. The adoptee doesn't get the medical files of the natural parents. The adoptee doesn't even get a copy of the adoption finalization. They get a copy of their original birth certificate. </span></h3>Since this woman seems to have voluntarily relinquished her rights, she doesn't get new rights in the process. She has lost them including her right to privacy in regards to the adoption of her child. There is also the issue of free association. A mother can say no contact. That is fine but however, they should tell their adoptee that to their face. It is the right thing to do.Amyadopteehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10954658047614318238noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19705400.post-41586954651739120322009-01-02T18:12:00.003-06:002009-01-02T20:05:05.757-06:00WARNING: RAW!Today I have just been cranky. Just point blank cranky. Every little thing today irritated me. I called one of my sisters today on the way home from town. I went in to get a few groceries so we can Mexican tomorrow night with Pizza tonight.<br /><br />I admit it that I was pissed about the typical bullshit about adoptee rights. All that "birthmother" privacy crap. All that "Gloom and Doom" that comes along when a state finally does the right thing. Oregon, Alabama and New Hampshire all had these types of articles. In fact, I am currently reading a novel by Tess Gerritsen. The coroner in the book is Maura Isles who just happens to be adopted. Her twin sister was just killed in front of her house. This book is not a good addition right now for me. I am already angry. The character is walking through her life numb.<br /><br />Back to that phone call. I asked her if she had heard from our first father lately. He usually sends a card but this year we had not gotten one. Its been a long while since I have spoken with him. He is honestly out there. If you met him, you would know what I am talking about. He is a superintellectual that has no basis in common sense. He is not emotionally involved with our lives. My sister made this comment. That door was slammed when we were born. This of course upsets my mother who has fought hard to make sure that all of us feel loved.<br /><br />My adoptive parents got divorced when I was five to six. After the divorce, he remarried another woman and then adopted her daughter, Amy. Yes there were two Amys with the same last name. I was taught from a young age that I was expendible. It is bad enough that I remember the sirens from when the ambulance carted my natural mother to the hospital. Yes it does happen. Babies are not born with clean slates. We do remember our mothers.<br /><br />My uselessness was further sealed by my second adoptive father. I do not even want to think about this as a possibility. I will however wonder. I am adopted. Because I was boy crazy, I was labeled a slut from the age of thirteen to twenty four by a man who I called Dad. Long before I became one for about six months. Then I decided it wasn't all that fun. You know what lingers in my mind? I will always wonder if this is where he got it from. This meaning the many myths about natural mothers. Did my second adoptive father think I was a slut because that was what the stupid horrendous attitudes towards the mothers of the past? Heck the like mother like daughter thing.<br /><br />So you can see I have some really negative tapes in my brain. Tapes that are sometimes hell to fight. Adoption teaches adoptees that they can be discarded. Then you add human attitudes. Fathers who change wives and children like a pair socks. Fathers who possibly think that an adopted child is a bad seed just like her natural mother. I have spent much of my life fighting negative thoughts of my fathers. I have spent my life pleasing every one else around me. Then when I get around to searching, I have to deal with her fears, her shame, and her guilt. What really sucks is knowing that I had a father who wanted me but I got two fathers who would have rather gotten rid of me.<br /><br />I get so fucking sick and tired of the fears of others. Which leads me to my next post.Amyadopteehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10954658047614318238noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19705400.post-42963589360976253552009-01-02T13:11:00.002-06:002009-01-02T13:42:18.148-06:00WHY ARE NATURAL PARENTS SO SCARY?I am trying to understand why prospective adoptive parents want to go the international route. I do understand wanting a child. I do not condemn adoptive parents for this issue. Some PAPs are very frustrated with the foster care system in the United States. That is understandable. It is bad system that doesn't even protect the kids. <br /><br />There were five listed on this <a href="http://www.exploringadoptionblog.com/adoption/2006/01/why_people_choo.html">site</a> that I visited when I asked Google to search this question for me. The author of this blog posted these responses and I am quoting her post on this:<br /><br /><ul><li>In domestic adoptions, a percentage of birth parents change their mind at the last minute and decide to parent. They don’t want to take that risk.</li><li>When parents adopt internationally, as soon as they receive their “referral” or are “matched” with a child, they become emotionally attached to that child. They know that that same emotional attachment would occur if they were to meet a birth parent(s) in a domestic adoption. International adoption guarantees more of a “sure thing” than does domestic adoption.</li><li>They fear that in a domestic adoption, a birth parent(s) might show up years down the line and demand their child back.</li><li>During the domestic adoption process, parents wishing to adopt write a “Dear Birth parent” letter which pits them in “competition” against other potential adoptive parents. They don’t have to join the “my family’s better than yours” competition.</li><li>There are millions of children, already born, who need families. Granted, there are hundreds of thousands of children in the U.S. waiting for families. But the U.S. system <st1:country-region><st1:place></st1:place></st1:country-region>doesn’t feel “trustworthy” in providing “safe transitions” from foster care to permanent homes.</li><li>It’s difficult to find a child who is “legally free” for adoption via the U.S. system. <st1:country-region><st1:place></st1:place></st1:country-region></li><li>They want to travel to adopt a child, and traveling overseas is an ideal way to see more of the world, become acquainted with their child’s country of origin and to bring home a child.</li></ul>Most of these I do understand. The competition thing can feel nasty. Fighting the foster care system is a pain and untrustworthy. However I am stumped at the mother thing. I wonder how many of these parents really think about what they are doing. You would not be a parent if it were not for these relinquishing mothers. It doesn't matter which part of the world that you are in. I am uncomfortable with the realization that I am someone's property. As an adoptee, I do not feel free as an American citizen. Adoption does that to adoptee. We often feel like chattel for our parents. <br /><br />I am a parent now. I do not look at my daughters as property. They are God's gift to me. They are not my possessions. With those sentiments being state above, it appears that PAPs want to be saviors and owners. I have spoken with several adoptive parents. Many of whom get the bigger picture now. I see adoption as it is currently practiced as hurting more than helping children. This is for international adoption and domestic infant adoption. I am not including foster care into this equation. Those are the children that need help and need families but I do understand that the foster care system does not make it easy. <br /><br />In adoption, it seems to be that no one thinks beyond what they need or want. That defines what entitlement is in adoption. The best interests of the child is to have his/her information to do with as they see fit upon adulthood. In fact, I think its because of this issue that we are having so many problems with adoption today. <br /><br />This is going to be hard to swallow but there is no other way to say it. Because of adoptive parent fears, records are sealed. Because of these fears, adoption has been shrouded in secrecy and lies. Because of that, adoption corruption has been allowed to grow into monstrous and disastrous proportions. <br /><br />The myth of "birthmother" privacy has been allowed to get out of control. Its ironic now because the mothers of the past do not want anyone speaking for them but themselves. Yet the adoption industry continues with this fallacy. The adoption industry also continues to push these "birthmother" fears with the adoptive parents. They let them persevere. <br /><br />Because of their actions, adoptees and their families are treated like we can not be competent enough to handle our affairs. It is everyone else's fears that control this. It is ridiculous. I can not comprehend this stupidity.Amyadopteehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10954658047614318238noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19705400.post-70032849509640391212008-12-31T12:32:00.003-06:002009-01-09T20:54:53.986-06:00A COOL FRAMEThis has got to be one of the coolest<a href="http://socialspark.com/metrics/click/post?slot_id=30253&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.ceiva.com%2F%3Futm_source%3Db" rel="nofollow"> digital photo frames </a>in the world. I mean cool. 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So check out Cieva and their awesome picture frames.<br /><br /><a href="http://socialspark.com/metrics/click/post?slot_id=30253&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.ceiva.com%2F%3Futm_source%3Db" rel="nofollow">Digital Photo Frame</a><br /><br /><br /><map name="map2125"><area href="http://socialspark.com/metrics/click/disclosure?slot_id=30253&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.ceiva.com%2F%3Futm_source%3Db" shape="rect" coords="0,0,206,45" rel="nofollow"><area href="http://socialspark.com/code_of_ethics" shape="rect" coords="207,0,225,45" rel="nofollow"></map><img alt="Post?slot_id=30253&url=http%3a%2f%2fsocialspark" src="http://socialspark.com/metrics/view/post?slot_id=30253&url=http%3A%2F%2Fsocialspark.com%2Fimages%2Fdisclosure_badges%2Fdisclosure_badge_grey.png" usemap="#map2125" border="0" />Amyadopteehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10954658047614318238noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19705400.post-61322136003393971812008-12-31T12:18:00.003-06:002009-01-02T11:56:40.237-06:00THEY JUST DO NOT WORKAbstinence only pledges do not work. Personally I know that they don't. When I was in high school, I made one. I did it to get even with my step father. He was under the impression that I would get pregnant before I got out of high school because I liked the boys. Yep I was boy crazy when I was younger. I managed not to have sex. It wasn't the pledge that prevented me. I was just too scared to approach one particular fellow until I graduated from high school. If we had dated longer, he would have been my first at that particular time.<br /><br />I am also very lucky in that my adoptive mother was very open and honest about sex. She explained the processes of sex. I was also taught sex education in the schools several times. <br /><br />When I got to college, it was a whole different ball game. You look at life differently. My mother and I made this pledge to each other. If I decided that I wanted to have sex, I was to tell her and she would help with birth control. That is exactly what happened. I had my exam in January. My first sexual experience was much later that year. <br /><br />This<a href="http://dallasmorningviewsblog.dallasnews.com/archives/2008/12/abstinence-pled.html"> article</a> came out in the last couple of days. I like this one because the author approaches this in snarky manner. People need to realize that our kids need education. Sex education and parental responsibility. There is absolutely no reason why we should not be teaching these in the schools.<br /><br />Here is his version of the study recently released.<br />href="http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2008/12/28/AR2008122801588.html?hpid=topnews">Big scientific news today, and unlike some studies, which just tend to <a target="_blank" href="http://www.popsci.com/node/10377">confirm things we already know</a>, this study has a surprising result. A large federal study conducted by a Johns Hopkins researcher and published in Pediatrics shows that, yes, indeed, those premarital abstinence pledges some teenagers take do have an impact on their behavior.<br /><br />Do they abstain from sex more than their pledge-less peers? No, of course not.<br />Do they abstain from certain kinds of sexual activity, then? Nope.<br />Oh, do they only have sex with fewer partners? Nope.<br />Um ... do they wait longer to have sex? Nope.<br />Um ... then what is the effect?<br /><br />Well, there seems to be one area where they are different from their peers: <u>They are more likely to have </u><u><em>unprotected </em>sex</u>. That's right, the one thing we know to be different about teenagers who pledge not to have sex at all is that only 1 in 4 of them use condoms, compared to a still-dismal 1 in 3 among teenagers who are not pressured into taking such silly pledges.<br /><br />Teens who take these pledges are more likely to have been educated in abstinence-only programs. 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<br /><map name="map2104"><area href="http://socialspark.com/metrics/click/disclosure?slot_id=30323&url=http%3A%2F%2Ftinyurl.com%2F674fv4" shape="rect" coords="0,0,206,45" rel="nofollow"><area href="http://socialspark.com/code_of_ethics" shape="rect" coords="207,0,225,45" rel="nofollow"></map><img alt="Post?slot_id=30323&url=http%3a%2f%2fsocialspark" src="http://socialspark.com/metrics/view/post?slot_id=30323&url=http%3A%2F%2Fsocialspark.com%2Fimages%2Fdisclosure_badges%2Fdisclosure_badge_grey.png" usemap="#map2104" border="0" />Amyadopteehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10954658047614318238noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19705400.post-31583447412344259312008-12-31T10:02:00.002-06:002008-12-31T10:18:35.422-06:00WHAT DOES ADOPTION CONTRIBUTE IN THIS ARTICLE?This article is about an aircraft crash. That is all its about. They still have not figured out what happened nearly a year later. So what does adoption have to do with it? Why point out that her children were adopted? It has nothing to do with the crash. The pilot's two main joys in her life were flying and her "adopted" children. I wonder if this individual is rolling in her grave right now. Oh Vey what a stupid article.<br /><br />Here is the article and the <a href="http://kennebecjournal.mainetoday.com/news/local/5662203.html">link.</a><br /><br />WEST GARDINER -- Nearly a year after a wealthy technology tycoon and her 10-year-old son lost their lives in a fiery plane crash, federal investigators are still trying to pinpoint the cause of the accident.<p>Jeanette Symons, a 45 year-old business mogul and recreational pilot, died Feb. 1 after her Cessna Citation C-525 jet went down in West Gardiner. Her son, Balan, 10, also perished.</p><p>It is not uncommon for final crash reports to be released six months to a year after the event, said Jose Obregon, an investigator for the National Transportation Safety Board in Miami. </p><p>"We're still investigating the cause, and that final report will probably be released closer to the anniversary (of the crash)," Obregon said. "Everything will be addressed at that time."</p><p>Symons had two big passions in life, colleagues said: Her adopted children and flying planes.</p><p>Symons was considered a seasoned pilot. Friends and colleagues said she had 15 to 20 years of flying experience, and the Federal Aviation Administration indicated she was qualified to fly single- and multiple-engine aircrafts and could use instrument flight rules -- where a pilot relies on instruments to fly the aircraft instead of using vision.</p><p>Mother and son had spent a few days at Sugarloaf so Balan could attend a ski camp. The two planned to depart Maine from the Augusta State Airport on Feb. 1. </p><p>Although the plane was originally kept inside a hangar, Maine Instrument Flight officials said they made it clear to Symons the hangar was reserved for Colgan Air aircraft, a commercial airline, and that -- if one of those planes landed in Augusta -- her jet could be taken out of the hangar. It was. </p><p>The National Transportation Safety Board's preliminary report revealed Symons had a bumpy takeoff from Augusta in freezing rain.</p><p>Maine Instrument Flight officials said Symons declined help de-icing the Cessna. </p><p>After starting the jet, the preliminary report said, Symons neglected to turn on the airport's field lights -- standard procedure for a pilot taking off from an airport without an air-traffic-control tower.</p><p>She then started taxiing down the wrong runway and ran the plane through a ditch.</p><p>Shortly after takeoff, air-traffic control in Portland reported receiving a distress call from Symons, saying she had an on-board emergency involving one of the plane's three "attitude indicators."</p><p>Tim Donovan, a longtime friend and business associate of Symons, said the day after the crash that Symons was not one to take risks when it came to her children and flying.</p><p>"She wouldn't have left if she didn't think she could take off safely," Donovan said at the time. "Jeanette probably logged more hours than a commercial pilot."</p><p>Symons was well-known and respected by peers and competitors in the world of technology.</p><p>Her first endeavor, Ascent Communications Inc., was launched in 1989. Ten years later, the company, now with thousands of employees, sold itself to Lucent Technologies for $24 billion. Symons was not yet 40 years old at the time.</p><p>In 2001, Forbes Magazine named her the wealthiest woman in the United States younger than 40, with a personal worth of $347 million, exceeding actor Tom Cruise and pro golfer Tiger Woods.</p><p>Symons continued to develop technology and communications companies, including Zhone Technologies and Industrious Kid, the business she owned at the time of her death that focuses on integrating children into the technological world.</p><p>"She was ... a fabulous, hands-on mother," Donovan said the day after the deaths. "To hear of this accident is just devastating."</p><p>Donovan could not be reached for this article.</p><p>Symons' other adopted child, Jennie, is now 8 and is being raised by family members.</p><p>Meghan V. Malloy -- 623-3811, </p><p>ext. 431</p>mmalloy@centralmaine.comAmyadopteehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10954658047614318238noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19705400.post-91292108750577274772008-12-31T09:46:00.002-06:002008-12-31T10:00:44.262-06:00SEEING THE WORLD AS IT ISI have to wear<a href="http://tinyurl.com/9e54hf%22"> glasses</a> or contacts. Just a visit to the optometrist is a 100 dollar plus cost.<a href="http://tinyurl.com/9e54hf%22"> Glasses </a>at the various places in town is a huge expense. Personally I have gone back to wearing<a href="http://tinyurl.com/9e54hf%22"> glasses </a>because I can take them off when I am reading, researching or doing craft work. 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Part of it is that many of their members and even former members have gone into the business of adoption. So they believe the "birthmother" hype. That is really irritating because those original birth certificates belong to the people whose birth they record. That is the way it is in the non adopted sector. It should not be any different for the adoptee. Its ridiculous. Bad thing is that we have to prove that it doesn't cause more abortions or reduce adoptions. We also have to prove that the relinquishing mothers support our cause. <br /><br />Here is the <a href="http://www.boston.com/news/nation/articles/2008/12/31/aclu_files_suit_over_ark_adoption_law/">link </a>and story.<br /><br />ITTLE ROCK, Ark. - More than a dozen families filed a lawsuit yesterday challenging a new Arkansas law that bans unmarried couples that live together from becoming foster or adoptive parents. <p>The Arkansas chapter of the American Civil Liberties Union filed the lawsuit in Pulaski County Circuit Court seeking to overturn Act 1, which was approved by voters in the general election.</p> <p>"Act 1 violates the state's legal duty to place the best interest of children above all else," said Marie-Bernarde Miller, a Little Rock attorney, in the lawsuit.</p> <p>The families contend that the act's language was misleading to voters and that it violates their constitutional rights.</p> <p>The Arkansas Family Council, a group that campaigned for the ban, said the law was aimed at gay couples but will affect heterosexuals and homosexuals equally.</p>Amyadopteehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10954658047614318238noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19705400.post-74626153916150353572008-12-31T09:16:00.002-06:002008-12-31T09:34:17.798-06:00SUMMERTIME SKIING LESSONSI have only been <a href="http://www.skicamp.com/programs/summer_ski_camp.asp">skiing</a> once. 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All I can say is give me a damn break here. There was never a promise of confidentiality or permanent privacy. It sure wasn't contractual. It was usually forced upon these mothers. Many of which were threatened with criminal action if they ever searched. They do not want us talking to each other because we might find out the truth. <br /><br />Here is the story and the<a href="http://pressherald.mainetoday.com/story.php?id=230168&ac="> link</a>:<br /><br /><p>A door that has protected people's privacy will spring open this week, and whoever walks through it should do so with care.</p> <p>Original birth certificates that have been denied to people who were adopted as infants will become available as a result of a law passed by the Legislature that goes into effect Friday.</p> <p>People who have grown into adulthood without knowing the names of their biological parents will have that information for the first time.</p> <p>Birth parents, who were promised anonymity when they gave children up for adoption, will no longer have their privacy protected. While the new law does allow them to say if they don't want to be contacted, whether that wish is honored will ultimately be out of their hands.</p> <p>The Legislature was presented with a true dilemma that left little room for compromise. The law's attempts to provide some privacy to the birth parents still falls far short of what they had been promised.</p> <p>Critics have charged that breaking the promise of confidentiality now could push vulnerable pregnant women away from adoption in the future, leading more of them toward the anonymous choice of abortion. In the end, the Legislature responded to the powerful arguments of the adoptees and came down on the side of the now-adult children at the expense of their birth parents.</p> <p>But it is unlikely that the lawmakers heard much from the people who desperately want to keep their past lives a secret, since they would not have exposed themselves in a public forum.</p> <p>It will be up to the children, many of whom are now older than their birth parents were when they signed the papers, to decide if they are going to access the records and what they will do with the information if they get it.</p> <p>For people who have fought so long to learn their birth parents' identities, the names alone may not be enough. The need to know more about them will be hard to resist.</p> <p>But in their zeal to learn more about their birth families, they should respect the privacy of those who do not want to be found.</p> <p>Agencies should track whether this law does indeed affect the decisions of women with unwanted pregnancies who are considering adoption. And everyone involved should approach this new door with caution.</p><div id="copyright">Copyright 2008 by The Portland Press Herald/Maine Sunday Telegram. All rights reserved.</div>Amyadopteehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10954658047614318238noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19705400.post-67167803054188403392008-12-30T14:01:00.002-06:002008-12-30T14:26:08.185-06:00AMARILLO BY MORNINGWe finally went out of town this last weekend. We do not go anywhere much these days. Finances are tight. We have to watch every little dime that we spend. 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