tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19705400.post5892012304354938582..comments2023-08-07T08:19:03.097-05:00Comments on ADOPTION AND ITS FOOTSTOOL: HOW TO CONVINCE SOMEONE ABOUT THE DARKSIDEAmyadopteehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10954658047614318238noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19705400.post-50948430304370731492008-12-02T11:01:00.000-06:002008-12-02T11:01:00.000-06:00ooops. Link should have been:http://sourcesara.blo...ooops. Link should have been:<BR/>http://sourcesara.blogspot.com/2008/11/raising-awareness-about-adoption.html<BR/><BR/>OR: http://tinyurl.com/6p9phlAdoptAuthorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15259177027389587604noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19705400.post-37490225376356825332008-12-02T10:57:00.000-06:002008-12-02T10:57:00.000-06:00Re Pertman's comment, I totally DISagree."Adam Per...Re Pertman's comment, I totally DISagree.<BR/><BR/>"Adam Pertman, executive director of the Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute, a policy, research and education organization, said it's essential that an agency work for both sides.<BR/><BR/>'Good, ethical practices entails serving everybody's needs and means acting purely transparently in all regards,' he said."<BR/><BR/>WRONG! No person or agency can or should represent both sides. This is clearly conflict of interest.<BR/><BR/>As YOU said, they must each have their own representative. It doesn't seem to me that that s what Pertman is saying or how his words are being interpetd by the reporter: "it's essential that an agency work for both sides."<BR/><BR/>Transparency, as Pertman suggests, HELPS. Such as informing a mother that open adoption agreements are likely NOT going to be enforceable in her state. But far better is separate counsel, not paid for by adopters.<BR/><BR/>And, to cheer you up...some do get it! See: http://sourcesara.blogspot.com/AdoptAuthorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15259177027389587604noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19705400.post-18541430900402496912008-12-02T10:44:00.000-06:002008-12-02T10:44:00.000-06:00PS MY parents does not getting, as will my one and...PS MY parents does not getting, as will my one and only sibling.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19705400.post-41941212884684081742008-12-02T10:43:00.000-06:002008-12-02T10:43:00.000-06:00You might try sending a book...or an article...but...You might try sending a book...or an article...but generally speaking when people's minds are made up...they're made up!<BR/><BR/>In politics it is accepted strategy not to waste too much time and effort trying to convince those with closed minds and set opinions. Instead focus on the "undecided" in the middle!<BR/><BR/>It is very satisfying to me to meet someone quite naive about it all and have them say "AHA!" when I get done with my spiel.<BR/><BR/>Mirah...who would like to thank MY mentors: MaryAnne Cohen, Lee Campbell, Carole Anderson, BJ Lifton, Anette Baran, Anne Babb...<BR/><BR/>You and I, Amy, have a proud heritage of women warriors staring with Jean Paton and Emma May Vilardi.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19705400.post-14894346099434334292008-12-02T04:42:00.000-06:002008-12-02T04:42:00.000-06:00I'm with Mei-Ling and maybe. I'm sick and tired of...I'm with Mei-Ling and maybe. I'm sick and tired of Adoption Fairyland. Strangers to adoption who profess to understand it, adoptees who insist upon being "Pollyannas" as you mentioned, first moms (like my own) who don't even want to admit they had a child...<BR/><BR/>I don't worry anymore about "upsetting someone" about my stance on adoption. As an adoptee I had no control over the circumstances of my birth, but I sure as hell have control over how I feel about it, and whether or not I want to express those feelings. I'm not going to be silent just to convenience someone else. Isn't that what the lives of first moms and adoptees are all about, shelving our own needs and desires to be someone else's convenience?Triona Guidryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00969598333210972017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19705400.post-34335961921919287232008-12-01T19:20:00.000-06:002008-12-01T19:20:00.000-06:00I cna feel militarism rearing its necessarily ugly...I cna feel militarism rearing its necessarily ugly head. Yeah, I am one of those pathetic "non"mothers who must have loved her child all the more in order to give him up, trusting others to care and protect him from, what, me? I have heard it for 38 years-he is better off, etc. Well, I am an educated, articulate woman who has loved him all of his life, and having found him now, feel as though I cannot forget the time wasted. Newest comment from my son is that he is worried about "upsetting someone" when they know that we are in touch. My pain and anger is not an option as I try to get to know my son. However, unlike some adoption agencies WE do not destroy or eat our young. Yeah, I am the Dreaded Return of the Natural Mother. <BR/><BR/>'Still scared, btw. 'Wish it was easier. Abandon all hope of a better past.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19705400.post-61555929635520095502008-12-01T10:34:00.000-06:002008-12-01T10:34:00.000-06:00Amy-sorry-I am too lazy to sign into my email agai...Amy-sorry-I am too lazy to sign into my email again-I wanted to tell you too to call the West Hempsted police dept on her too-I am not kidding-cyberbullying is against the law-I just read her stupid blog-and now I am even madder because she is putting your name and Teresas last name on it-I knew this was going to happen damnit-she is the most vengeful bitch I have ever met-it is part of her mental illness-I am sure I will be next because I just sent a comment to her blog and told her I printed out everything and I am going to the court here-I haven't gone yet because I haven't felt well the last few weeks-if seh puts my name on her blog I am suing her personally-go to the court too wehre you live and try to get her blog down-if we both do it, it is even worse for her-she is an arrogant fucking bitch and totally out of control-she seems to think she is untouchable-but fuck her. She isn't and I will prove that to her soon-pls don't publish thisThe Improper Adopteehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04460201280334904431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19705400.post-56028595482043318042008-12-01T09:43:00.000-06:002008-12-01T09:43:00.000-06:00I'm inclined to agree with Mei-Ling: you can't get...I'm inclined to agree with Mei-Ling: you can't get them to understand.<BR/><BR/>As an invisible mother, I've actually had people tell me I was better off without my baby. Hey, I got to go college, yippee for me. <BR/><BR/>I must admit I've become a little more militant. When I hear ignorant statements, I just ask them which of their children would they like to lose. <BR/><BR/>I don't really waste much time on diplomacy anymore, it doesn't work. Bold, direct statements work better for me.maybehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07067284504038707207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19705400.post-17595184436262077212008-11-30T19:03:00.000-06:002008-11-30T19:03:00.000-06:00You can't.I tried talking to my best friend.She in...You can't.<BR/><BR/>I tried talking to my best friend.<BR/><BR/>She insists on being a "Pollyanna" about the whole thing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com