tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19705400.post8185592744589359180..comments2023-08-07T08:19:03.097-05:00Comments on ADOPTION AND ITS FOOTSTOOL: ABUSE IN ADOPTION PART 1Amyadopteehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10954658047614318238noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19705400.post-53838196374988920832006-12-05T13:11:00.000-06:002006-12-05T13:11:00.000-06:00Great work, keep writing and keep pushing for the ...Great work, keep writing and keep pushing for the truth.<br /><br />I am an adoptee whose legal (adopting) parents may or may not have chosen to return me if they had been given a safety measure of returning me. Instead, I made due just as so many birth children do. Except in my case, I was told over and over to be grateful to the people that were taking their frustrations out on me. In birth families children are told that parents make mistakes and that abuse they suffer is not thier fault. In adoptive families, the children are told to be grateful for the great favor thier "parents" have done for them, and when they complain are shusshed and berated for being ungrateful for the "family they have".<br /><br />There should be open records available. And, as an adoptee, I can state that I would WELCOME the chance to go back and be placed into the system by my adoptive parents -- I would have been given a chance at a normal life, with grants for college, etc rather than being a second class member of a middle class family. <br /><br />Adoption agencies should guarantee the happiness and well being of children they place. Perhaps the threat of lawsuits would activate self interest enough to follow up since the welfare of the families is not important enough motivator for agencies to follow up.<br /><br />In my experience, the only people opposed to the truth are those who have something to hide.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19705400.post-6309980280339977452006-12-05T11:40:00.000-06:002006-12-05T11:40:00.000-06:00Amy, from what I understood , the Louise Wise case...Amy, from what I understood , the Louise Wise case of "wrongful adoption" was based on the claim of the adopters that they "would not have adopted the child had they known of the schizophrenia of the mother."So this was not a case of their desire to help raise the child better...they openly admitted they wouldn't have wanted him. And he knew this. The "family" was on "60 minutes" many years ago.The son said he "didn't blame " his adoptive parents for feeling the way they did about him. Shortly after that, he killed himself.How tragic.<br /><br />One of the Gladney cases involved an adoption that just didn't work out..adopters and the "daughter" didn't get along. They sued Gladney for medical information. Gladney provided it, including the fact that the nmother had had 2 abortions(this is confidential medical information) before the pregnancy that produced the surrendered child.This was published in a daily Texas newspaper, along with other family medical history that was not hereditary.<br />I agree that families should share hereditary medical history, but there are adopters who are suing because they don't like what they got.<br />I have a relative(cousin) who is schizophrenic.Her parents(biological)always loved her and did everything they could for her. The causes of that disease are not clear and ..one wonders...Should my aunt and uncle have tried to sue someone? If so, whom?The hereditary causes of disease/conditions are often unclear and or/not known, nor can anyone know for sure what information is even known in a family.<br /><br />These wrongful adoption cases commodify children even more,making them into a product with 'defects" and 'warrantees".Giving birth is always a risk and so is adoption.Children are not cars, washing machines, or tv sets.They are not created on an assembly line with interchangeable parts.And they do not come with a guarantee.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com