Last night I spoke with a birthmother friend over the phone. We got into a discussion on birth certificates and the open records fight. The more I thought about it, the more I realized that she was right. This fight is about our rights as adoptees. Every non adopted person has the right to his/her original birth certificate. Yet we don't. Its not about confidentiality or right to privacy. In that regards, our right is being violated. In Sunquist case in Tennessee, a Supreme Court Justice stated that the right to privacy was the right to be free from government intrusion. Adopted adults are the ones that suffer from governmental intrusion. Our birth certificates are sealed from our view. It is our birth that it records. Our records do not belong to adoptive parents or birth parents. In forty five states, the government holds us bound by contracts made by us but not signed by us.
Even though I feel that both adoptees and their birthparents owe each other honesty and truth, we as a country can't mandate that. You just can't regulate human behavior. Its impossible. Everyone's rights will be trampled then. Contact between all parties can't be intermediated through outside parties. Yet that is commonplace with several states who have confidential intermediaries. Here again the rights of the triad are being trampled by governmental intrusion.
We are the forever children of adoption. Our right to our records is being kept under lock and key. Held forever in secrecy by those who think they know better than us to control our lives. I am tired of being a perpetual child in the eyes of the law. I am tired of being treated like I am not entitled to the records that record my life.