WHO DECIDES FOR US?

In my research, I have discovered something that I am sure members of both the adoption reform crowd and the anti-adoption crowd have known for quite a while. I mentioned at the end of a letter to a state legislators. http://www.bbchurch.blogspot.com BB Church mentions it in his blog. How is it that adoption agencies, their lobbists, and the state make laws about us and our lives? How come they don't let us make that choice? How come they don't ask us about our choices?