As I have been reading all the stories today about Allison Quets. I have heard many many different things. Some people do not want to support her because she used donor eggs/sperm. Okay yes she is an adoptive parent of sorts. I know that the first generation of those types of adoptees are coming out now. They are speaking out. They are feeling the same as ol' time adoptees. They are just as ticked as us. So we have that issue to contend with. What she would have done when her children grew up I can't really say. This particular wrong doesn't make what happened to her any less wrong or right. It just brings up the very problem of the complexity of life. And what happens when the rights of people are trampled. What happens when we mess with God's plans
Yet I am faced with the conundrum of her being raked over the coals by an adoption attorney who has his hand in Jeb Bush's pocket. Jeb Bush just like the rest of the Bush clan is making laws that deprive women of their children. The only part about all of this that makes some of us gag is the donor thing. It doesn't make her any less of a mother. She had her so-called boyfriend forcing her to give up the children. She had a set of adoption parents coming at her constantly degrading her. She was forced in a room where the attorney and a social worker badgering her for hours to give up those kids. Here she was ill from one of the side effects of in vitro fertiliation. You know that she spent a small fortune on that alone. Then she spends another fortune fighting to get her children back. Okay where is lack of duress here? There is none. It was there plain and simple. One of the things that Gail, her sister, asked is where are the women's rights groups. Honestly they are more interested in the right to an abortion than they are in a woman's right to keep and raise her children. What they need to remember is that women want to be mothers and wives. They should not leave a majority of the population along the way side. What many many of these groups both for and against abortion don't realize is that a majority of women don't have an antagonist relationship with their babies. That their choices are based on what is best for her and that child. I came across a coworker that had a friend that regretted her abortion. Would adoption been any better? I don't think so. I look at all my mother friends and would say no. This young woman also liked to drink alot. I think the odds would have been stacked against her. When I argue about adoption and its wrongs, people automatically think I am pro-choice. Yea I am but personally I am pro-life. I chose to have both of my daughters. I am also raising both of my daughters. When I bring up the disparity of the laws concerning adoption and abortion, people actually do cringe. It is a rough subject that many don't want to hear. They don't like to hear about the bad side of adoption. Of course the crude/rude socially unacceptable comments come out full force. Just check out the comments in the Detroit news after the series on mothers came out. Those women were accused of being for abortion. Just like abortion has its issues so does adoption. Adoption does have its side effects.
Another friend of mine brought up why is when a girl gets pregnant, the parents automatically want to get rid of it. Not ever realizing that is their grandchild. Why is it that a 17 year old young man and his family can figure that out? Here we have laws that encourage a 10 year old girl, child, can make the decision to give a baby up for adoption yet that same child can't have an abortion without her parents consent. Look at what happened in Ms. Bennett's case in one of my previous posts. The high school counseling gave her an adoption pamphlet provided by the school's superintendent who also ran an adoption agency. The high school counselor advised the young woman to run away. She saw the inside of the adoption agency twice. In most normal conditions that young woman can't sign a contract yet here she is making a decision alone without her parents being advised of what she is doing. Something is wrong with our society that we allow that kind of human trafficking. The court in her case ordered the adoption agency to bring the child into the courtroom yet here they disobeyed a court order. Will they get punished at all for their disrespect for the judge? Hopefully that ticks off the judge. The adoption agency has probably told the adoptive parents to hide. Yet here we have at least three very public cases of obvious abuse on the part of adoption attorneys and agencies. Will the FBI do an thorough investigation into Ms. Quets situation? I hope so but I doubt they will because for the most part it is a state issue. At least one story ended good. Rashad and his family did get to see his child. For the small miracles in the world, I am grateful. Opening up these records would prove what the mothers and their children in these situations have been saying for years. I pray that the state legislators start listening. Its time to end this once and for all. Its time that they hear our voices, not those of the adoption agencies and attorneys. Their lives are not the ones that are hurt, destroyed, and maimed by adoption. They just make a buck of us. This year I am not taking it anymore. I will not have another woman hurt by adoption. I will not have another child pushed and pulled by these people.