Having been adopted, I can say ,without a doubt, that, no, you don't. Adoption takes away your basic human right to identity. No they don't tell you about that. They don't tell that my mother and the many other mothers have suffered greatly for the secrets that they perpetrate. They assumed and told these young women to go on with their lives. They told society this. We did not. We have for many years not been allowed to speak our feelings. We as adoptees that do speak up against the injustices done to us and our families are ingrates and anti-adoption. We have also been called pro abortion. Personally I believe in the right to choose. Let's make one thing clear. Yes I do sometimes wish that I was aborted. I would have been born wanted by the woman that gave birth to me. I hate the fact that I was born to a woman whose trump card no longer worked. I hate the fact that society views her as a breeder, a whore ( crack), and a heartless woman. Maybe she is and maybe she is not. I can't know that truth because others feel that I am not entitled to the truth. These others are the NCFA, Catholic Charities, ACLU, Planned Parenthood, and NARAL just to name a few. The last three are what I consider to be deformers. These groups support a woman's right to choose. That is all fine and dandy. Adoption is supposed to be about a child. Child whose parents are deceased or unable to care for the child. The child was not able to make decisions for themselves. At age 18, most people are considered adults. Yet adoptees are the forever children of this country. I am forever the property of the state, the property of my first mother, and the property of my adoptive family. The family pet has more rights in many ways than the family adoptee. They have the right to dignity, history, medical care, and so forth. Adoptees are just out of luck when it comes to his history, his medical background, and his heritage.
Where I live, every horse has lineage that goes back five to six generations. Where I live there is cattle that have that as well. It is good for business and good for the life of the animal. The calves and colts are given adequate time to grow and bond with their families and the others in their herd. Adoptees are stripped of their parents shortly after birth. Kittens and puppies have their mothers close by. It would be considered inhumane to strip those young creatures of their families. Our society does it to parents all over this country. Look at Rashad. Look at Stephanie Bennett. Look at Shawn Mcdonald. Look at the three young girls who bonked the maternity home director on her head. Adoption is not regulated. Society wants it to be the feel good thing. Sorry I am a product of the scientific experiment called adoption. How do you take away my feelings of being different, of emotional guilt, and the many others. When an individual adopts a cat, they expect it to act like a cat. They don't spend months trying to make it behave like a dog. Yet that is what society has done to adoptees.
Everyone assumes a hostile relationship between parent and child. Could you give a child up for adoption? If you were pregnant with a deathly ill baby, would you have an abortion? Tough questions. Could you make that decision? You pass judgement yet you move on. Its not my problem. Well in our society children and their parents have been attacked. If our mothers work, they are wrong. If our mothers stay at home and use welfare to help themselves, they are wrong. A woman can be a saintly woman, yet if she is raped. Oh she becomes a slut.
As I have readers that are politicians, I must tell you that adoption laws in this country favor the adoption agencies, their attorneys, and their lobbists. They do not support adoptees because we are the merchandise that they make money with. They do not support first parents because they are the producers of said merchandise. They do not support adoptive parents because you are the buck that they drool over.
When over 95% of first parents want us to access those records, why are closed records even allowed to exist? When our adoptive parents support us in our search and reunion, why are the records still closed? When first parents have relinquished their rights, why are the records closed? Adoptees did not relinquish their rights.