WHAT THEIR STORY MEANS TO ME~
Their story is a tragic and heart breaking one. It is also one that will always confound me. In no other courtroom drama is a minor allowed to not be fully represented. Only adoption. They want a young pregnant woman to consider adoption as a viable option. Yet they don't fully inform her on adoption. They don't give her any options.
On a contradictory side, they want the parents to give consent or be contacted if she is getting an abortion. A young girl is in the same position no matter how you look at it. What is so wrong with fully informing a young woman? What is so wrong with fully empowering a young woman? What is so wrong with just listening to a young woman work through her fears, angst, and worries instead of stripping her of her child? That is exactly what happened in this situation. The adoption agency stripped this family of a child. A child which they made a profit of. A CHILD THAT WAS BEING RAISED BY THIS YOUNG WOMAN AND HER FAMILY. A FAMILY THAT HAD CUSTODY OF THIS CHILD.
How can we as a society continue to put our collective heads in the sand when it comes to mothers and children? You see I am that child fourty years from now. It is heart wrenching to know that my father fought for me. It is aggravating to be lied to by the adoption agency. To be told that she had a choice on whether or not to hold me. Now knowing that is absolutely not the case. They never gave her that choice. It wasn't even an option for her. How can they even tell me that? It is infuriating to know that the name listed in my records that she supposedly gave me is probably a lie. It was a name given to me by some social worker. This child if allowed to stay with the so-called adoptive family will forever try to bury the secret of what they allowed themselves to be involved in. They won't be able to though because there are just too many of us to tell this story.
Does anyone not see that we need to deal with truth when it comes to human lives? Why is it that PETA will stand up for the animals of this country? When will we as a society start to treat the parents and children of adoption as human beings instead of merchandise to be bought and sold as accessories to our adoptive parents? When will our society stop acting like we owe our adoptive parents our very lives? When will our society stop acting like we adoptees should be so grateful that we weren't aborted by our first parents that we must forever honor their privacy because they feel shame? As an adoptee, I did not have a choice. The choices were dictated to my first parents and my adoptive parents by society. I did not have a voice. I still don't have a voice because the laws feel that I can't handle my truth.
ADOPTION AGENCIES, ADOPTION ATTORNEYS AND THEIR MAIN LOBBYIST, NCFA, DON'T CARE ABOUT US LIVING ADOPTION. NOW WITH MANY STATES PRESENTING ADOPTEE ACCESS LAWS INTO PLAY. ITS TIME TO STAND TALL AND FIGHT BACK. ITS TIME TO END THEIR EXCESSES AND THEIR ABUSES. WE NEED TO LET THE ADOPTION AGENCY, A CHILD'S WAITING, KNOW THAT WE WON'T TOLERATE THEIR ABUSING A YOUNG WOMAN AND TAKING HER CHILD. WE WON'T ACCEPT THE CRUEL AND BRAZEN WAY THAT THEY TOOK THIS CHILD.
NEXT ON MY TARGET LIST IS ~ GLADNEY ADOPTION CENTER
WE ARE GONNA PROVE YOU TO BE THE LIARS, THIEVES, AND PHARISEES THAT YOU ARE.