I read a blogger a while back in the Allison Quets' case. I have to wonder this myself. Where are the women's groups? I know that her issue is sticky because of the sperm/egg donation thing. She was still treated horribly by the agency and the attorneys. If not her case, what about the Bennett's?
I have read the arguments that NOW is presenting and looking at. They want society to acknowledge a woman's right to autonomy. They want women to have the right to consent to sex and the right to consent pregnancy. What about the right to consent to motherhood without the fear of losing her child? Isn't that a consideration? Why is there a redistribution of babies of poor women to rich women? Why is it that our society condemns the poor woman to losing her baby because she can't give her child all the advantages that a wealthy woman can? Who really decides what is best for us?
Mirah, in her blog Family Preservation, addressed this issue with Rickie Solinger in an interview that was done last year. I think part of it is that the misconceptions being put out there by the industry itself. No one wants to appear anti-adoption. That is like a cuss word in our realm. As time moves forward, I find that the words of that crowd more and more true. We must change adoption as it is completely unregulated. They feed the myths of adoption to society. Its not us in the adoption underground. Many fear being called anti-adoption. I personally do not care any longer. As an adoptee, I am wrong no matter which direction I turn. I do know that anyone who goes against the adoption industry faces this issue. Of course, the industry tells us that adoption is a win/win/win. With many adoptees, natural parents, and adoptive parents speaking out, how is it that? We all lose in this. The only one who truly wins is the adoption agency that is counting the bills in the proverbial back room. Sadly the industry doesn't listen to the adoptees nor the natural parents. This is where adoptive parents are culpable. They have the opportunity to change the industry. They can step up and say no we want to control this. Sadly in a rush to get that precious child they so covet, they forget that their child will want their information and that a natural mother is in pain.