This is not aimed at anyone in particular. I am just saying, you know what I mean? I am someone who intensely dislikes adoption as it is practiced in the United States. Society and our government treats adoptees, natural parents, and adoptive parents separately under the law. Separate is not equal.In my last post, did anyone pay attention to the numbers in the post about the adoption agencies that practice in Russia? $100,000,000 at a minimum and this is just one country and 22 adoption agencies. I wonder what the numbers are for the other countries and the agencies. That post took me three days to research and write up. I went to the agency websites, Guidestar.org, and just basically googled the agency.
A friend of mine recently mentioned that she had no sympathy for the new and upcoming prospective adoptive parents. Honestly I don't either. There are bloggers all over the place including adoptive parents saying that the system is messed up. I read a new friend's book recently. I promise that I will finish it up tonight and report back to you on it (I know that she reads here). One of the things that I noticed with her research was that the laws reflected those who profited from adoption. Those that live adoption want them changed. Those living adoption are adoptees, natural parents and adoptive parents. I was floored when I read that. This research doesn't reflect all adoptive parents. The ones that profit off adoption have the power and the money. Who gives them this power and money? Adoptive parents. In this aspect, adoptive parents are culpable in the actions of adoption agencies and attorneys.
I don't want to be so harsh on adoptive parents but it is the sad truth. As I research more and more into the industry itself, it doesn't care about adoptees because we are mere merchandise to be trafficked. It doesn't care about the natural parents because they are mere producers of a product. It doesn't care about its consumers because they consider stupid fools. I have looked at the applications from the agencies from Russia. An adoptive parent must sign these things. I would not sign something like this if I purchasing a car or refrigerator. I have heard enough stories where adoptive parents have spoken out only to be blackballed by the industry. The industry likes it when we fight amongst ourselves. We can't get it together enough to fight back.
I may not understand the pain of infertility. I know personally that I could never adopt because I don't want what has been done to me to be done to another child. I don't know what it feels like to lose a child. I hope that I never do. I do however understand and feel compassion for both sides of the fence.
So many adopters adopt from other countries. Those children over there are in just as bad condition as our American children. We choose to ignore our American children who are true orphans. I know that the foster care system isn't any better. The adoption industry is making money on that end as well. Its at least five billion dollars. This doesn't include the tax breaks adoptive parents receive, the medicaid that is spent on natural parents and on adoptees who are special needs.
Here I am trying to make a point. All I get is that someone doesn't like my tone of my blog. When you see people get hurt by the industry, then you might understand why I am so angry at a system that doesn't work. I have listen to mothers crying because they changed their minds. I have heard the despair of fathers who have lost their children to an unscrupulous system. I have listened to adoptees who are lost in between adopters and natural parents who can't get their act together to be the parents that they are supposed to be. I have read and written to adopters who have been screwed over by a system that is supposed to be on the up and up.
Its time to change the direction of that pain and anger. Lets turn it on them, the industry. Make them change.