Is it my parents that have them? NO because my mother has always told me that she would help me search. In fact she has tried searching for me. Do I own me? Most definitely not!!!! I don't have my papers. The state of Indiana does. My birth father doesn't own me. Heck he never had any rights to me. My birth mother made sure he would not have them at all. So which of them owns me? The state of Indiana or my birth mother? One of them does. Its funny I was recently told that when my birthmother dies, I can then have my records. Interesting. She owns me and the state of Indiana lets her get away with it. Only adoptees in 45 states are owned. The non adopted don't have to worry about their records, their history, their geneology. They know it. It is okay for them to have a search for their identity. I don't how many times that I have been asked " have you searched yet, don't you want to search, I couldn't handle not searching for that information." I have also been told that I should be grateful that I have parents that wanted me, that I was lucky that I wasn't aborted, and I am also lucky my mother didn't throw me in a trashcan. What you don't know if the law back in 1965 had been different she would have done just that - aborted me. I did have one biological parent that wanted me but my biological mother chose the unethical way out and the state of Indiana has let her get away with it then and now. I know this for a fact. She even owns up in the Transcripts listed under my April links.
You know the government has never allowed me to get away with anything. Yet the government allows her to get away with destroying a family. The government won't even recognize his rights whatsoever. Where is the honor and integrity in this?
I have a great deal to be angry with. I wonder when the day will come when adoption isn't foremost on my mind. I wonder if the day will ever come that I get to meet my father, my brothers, and my sister. She is going to have to come clean in a major way for us to even have a relationship. If she ever opens the records, I will get my information and then I am so gone. How can anyone be so scared of her only daughter? How can anyone show so much disdain for her only daughter because she is just that a daughter? Why am I the member of the 1% club?
GOD I HATE ADOPTION. ADOPTION IN THIS COUNTRY ESPECIALLY BACK IN THE FIFTIES, SIXTIES, SEVENTIES WAS ABOUT OWNERSHIP. I AM SO TIRED OF BEING OWNED BY THE STATE.