YOU SHOULD BE GRATEFUL THAT YOU WEREN'T ABORTED.
Words that came out of the mouth and brain of a now former dear friend. Get this she is the wife of an adoptee (who is in reunion). She also accused me of being jealous of her husband. I am thrilled when adoptee beats the system of secrets and lies. She is also a webmaster and a former paralegal student. If by chance she actually reads this, I am going to make it clear to her and others how I really feel about adoption. By diminishing me she also diminished her husband who is a very good man. Too bad she doesn't realize it.
YES I DO SOMETIMES WISH THAT I HAD BEEN ABORTED.
Then maybe I would have been born to my parents. I would not have had to deal with the fact that I was thrown away by my "first" not once but twice. I would not have had to deal with the fact that I was a pawn my "first" mother used against my birth father. She used me to get my birth father to try and leave his wife. When that failed, she cast me totally aside like I was trash no longer useful to her ambitions and desires. Being a girl child, I was even more useless to her. Her boys have better value than me.
DON'T TELL ME THAT I OUGHT TO BE GRATEFUL FOR THE PARENTS THAT I HAVE.
I am very happy with my adoptive family. We have our share of problems but we do alright. My search is not about them. My search is about me and discovering who I am. My search is about my identity and about my life. It is no reflection on anyone else. So leave my family out of it