Thursday, November 15, 2007

Notebook: Are You My Mommy?

Thank you, Katie Couric. It is not about reunion though. It is about the civil rights of those living adoption. Natural mothers are not allowed access to those OBC's. Adoptees are not allowed access to those OBC's. Adoptive parent don't have access to those OBC's. Again I ask who are we protecting with this imposed secrecy? Oh that is right we are protecting the agencies.

6 comments:

iris eyes said...

Access to the OBC for the adopted person gives the mothers name to the adopted person, which the adopted person probably does not have. Access to the OBC for the adopters gives the mothers name to the adopters which they might not have. Access to the OBC for the mother gives her access to her own name and the name she gave her child at birth.

This is not equal access.

Equal access would give identifying access to all parties.

ONE MEAN ANGRY ADOPTEE said...

You know how I feel about this. I think all should be allowed access to those records. It is just so frustrating that some states are not listening. I think you as a mother should have access to the amended birth certificate as well as the original birth certificate. I think that I am preaching to the choir on this one. If I have my way, Texas will be one that all gets access to the adoption stuff. Indiana well I don't know if that will ever happen they are so backwoods.

Iris Eyes said...

I don't know for sure Amy,

but really no one needs to hide.

And still, people from all adoption perspectives keep insisting that they need "protection" from "someone" who might bother them....

Well..

If they don't want phone calls, they can hang up the phone, if they don't want letters, return the mail..

IMO...

It really isn't about hiding from other people, I don't think anyway, but rather from some idea that people have about themselves.

DENISE ROESSLE said...

HELL YES!

Forget backwoods. Even the most progressive and populous states, like California, where I gave birth, have resisted open records. New York as well. Someone pointed out to me that the states with the most adoptions, like California, NY, Texas, Florida... have the most at risk (adoptive parent wise).

I think all we need is one BIG ONE, like Texas, and the rest will start to fold.

Anonymous said...

I am a reunited birthmother first, a MI court appointed confidential intermediary second, and a champion for civil rights always. Denying OBC's is a violation of civil rights. Let's not cloud the issue with individual special interests...That just enables the politicians to avert attention from any resolution. This has to start somewhere...and I think we need to keep it simple...to get the motion started. There is legislation currently pending in MI to achieve "open records". We've had a C.I. program in effect since 1/1995...but that was just the start for moving in the right direction of open records.

ONE MEAN ANGRY ADOPTEE said...

I don't suppose you would come work for Indiana would you? Try for me????? Thank you for posting this. I bet your reunion rate is incredibly high isn't it? Thank you for speaking out. Michigan has got a bill pending. With the natural mothers speaking out as they have and this report being published maybe we will get that bill going faster. It will put pressure on Indiana. Illinois is considering the same. Again maybe the Indiana legislators will start thinking about this. I can only hope and pray.