You can find the link here. Here is what she wrote.
Suffering from adoption loss
As a mother who suffered adoption loss, I resent the idea that my child was a "gift" to anyone ("The anonymous gift of adoption," Editorial, yesterday). I did not ask for, nor was I offered, "anonymity" from my adult child. The very idea is ridiculous.
The author of the editorial is living in a dream world. Most of the mothers I know who surrendered children for adoption were coerced. There was no "giving" of a "gift."
Only a tiny minority of mothers who placed their children for adoption have yet to break the shackles of shame placed on us by society, social workers and the mavens of adoption. Most of us have our fondest dream come true when we are found by our adult children.
Adoption, itself, is bad enough without our going back to the bad old days of closed, secret adoptions, worry for the mother and confusion for the child.
There are millions of us from the infamous "baby scoop era" between the end of World War II and the inception of Roe v. Wade who will move mountains to see that such a primitive practice does not continue. The film "Juno" was pure propaganda.
Now, once more, to get this straight: If you want to give a gift, pick up a catalog and send a fruit basket or some dinnerware. "Giving" a baby is still trafficking in human flesh and, as such, is reprehensible. Not allowing that adopted person and his or her mother to know each other is cruel and selfish.
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THat article made me want to vomit. Nice to make our children gifts and commodities, no? But as I said elsewhere, long as children are gifts, object, they have no civil rights.
There are millions of us from the infamous "baby scoop era" between the end of World War II and the inception of Roe v. Wade who will move mountains to see that such a primitive practice does not continue.
Note that mothers who are not BSE will move mountains as well.
Believe me Suz I know that one. So many times they do refer to the women of the BSE. They are craving protection from their unwanted children. We both know that isn't true. I just wish that these idiots proclaiming the "natural mother" privacy would realize what they have done to women and children in general.
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